Fear is an emotion that exists in everyone but when it becomes heavy on our mind our mind tries to control everything that is beyond our control, In that stage our mind always wants safe & confort zone, and avoid risk, then as a result we feel like joy & excitment is get vanished from our life and our life becomes too boring, growth get hampered and we couldn’t live our life fully.

Fear is just an imagination of our mind not reality, A kind of an imagination which is created by choice through training our subconcious mind through negative beliefs and thoughts.

How Fear Get Attracted in our mind

1. Negative Talks Around You: When You always hear from your friends or relatives who give priority to the survival over growth, who always advice to avoid risk and not to have a big dreams, who always highlights the negative side or consequences of any challenging or creative activity, All these results your mind becomes expert to imagine the worst possible outcome before taking an action for the growth.
2. Self Criticism or Avoiding Tough Coversation: If you always have been realize in your childhood that you are not enough intelligent or overcriticize for your mistakes or if you are always judged, laughed and misunderstood by others for your opinions, if you were always stopped from raising questions, then it created a self doubt in you and kills you self confidence, your mind starts to believe that your opinions are not enough powerful or valuable and you create a believe that your opinions are always wrong, as a result you feel scared to express your opinions in any tough conversations.
3. Overprotection or Excessive comfort from your family: If you are grown up with such kind of circumstances when your parents were overprotective for your safety or for your better future then sometimes you becomes too addictive to your comfort zone and afraid to accept the responsibilities & challenges.
4. Emotionally Immature or High Conflict or Dysfunctional Environment of Family: When you were always kept controlled by family in the name of protection,when your parents used to live in constant worries or suppressed tension, where expressing emotions or creation of healthy boundaries were treated like a overreaction or desrespect behaviour and you were expected to suppress your emotions as an respectful behaviour, Such kind of trauma from the toxic surrounding creates the fear inside of you.
5. Painful Memories: Some phrases came in your life when you fail in your dream carrier or a painful breakup after a long duration of relationship or death of your loved one or may be you took one of your bad childhood memory so deeply and From deep inside, you feel scare to face it again in your journey ahead.
6. Lack of Encouragement and Validation: We live in the society where failures and mistakes are treated like a sin, and we all grow up by hearing a kind of words from our teachers and parents that if we got fail or made mistake we would get punished instead of guided, that makes your mind recieves a signals that failure is not a good thing and you start afraid from it and couldn’t take an action, since when you wish to do something big which involves challenge, risk and possibility of failures, peoples always discourage you and your mind recieves a signals that failure is not a good thing and you start to afraid from it and couldn’t take an action, But Failures are also equally important as success since failures teaches us most valuable lessons of life that brings growth later.
7. Ignorance of Emotional Needs: When your emotional needs were always ignored or never priotized or you have not been enough aware about your emotional needs or you have to learned to deal everything alone, something that creates fear of rejection, failures, judgement in your mind.

Due to all of the above reasons fear becomes heavy on our mind and our mind starts to control us.

Could Fear Be Completely Eliminated ?

Answer is No, Fear cannot be completely eliminated but we can control on the fear and also could use this fear as an advantage for us.

How It could be proved as an advantage for your growth:

1. Use Fear as an instrument of awareness: When you decide to take an action for any challenging task your fear came to remind you about risk and consequences attached with that task, At that point of time, Instead of being afraid from that reminder, say thanks to your fear for making you aware from those possible risk and challenges that could arise in future, and tell your brain that my fear tell me about these risk and challenges so we have to plan that what are the possible ways to handle this.
2. Choosing Faith Over Fear: ‘Faith and Fear’ Both are just an imagination not the reality, So it’s a choice whether to attract faith or fear, so whenever your brain imagine worst possible outcome that could result from action, remind your mind with that worst possible outcome that you imagine is just an imagination not the reality, even if it becomes a reality, Universe will protect me since my intentions behind my actions are pure.
3. Train the mind to see light in the dark: All you need is to replace your problem oriented beliefs with solution oriented beliefs, Whenever your brain say that starting business is risky and too uncertain, ask your brain to think how can I manage the risk, how can I deal with uncertainity to attract the growth in my life, whenever your brain say If I marry a wrong partner, ask your brain to reflect what kind of a person I am and what kind of partner is my need to make my marriage beautiful.
4. Understand the hidden message behind fear: Sometimes your inner voice wants to convey a message that you couldn’t see because your fear control you, Example:If you loved someone and you didn’t want to loose them, They are cheating you and you couldn’t understand their intentions because you have carried a fear in your mind which is not allowing to understand their true intentions.
5. Turning Fear into Fuel for Growth: Fear is sign that you are moving towards a change and outside of your comfort zone to attract growth, Don’t take it as a weakness, take it as a powerful energy, Don’t Avoid it, Consider it as a feul for courage, focus and determination, Example: If you are a student who is afraid that what If I didn’t perform well in exam, then turn your fear as your feul for better preparation, If you want to start a buisness and afraid that what If I fail then turn this fear into feul to learn more, plan better, avoid careless mistakes, If you want to follow your passion, and afraid what ‘other people think, if they criticize or laugh’ turn this fear into feul and ask yourself Why I want to do this ?, Is my Purpose behind this is pure ? Is my purpose is powerful then the other’s opinion ? What If hear others by suppressing my passion how would I live a happy life ?
6. Reflect your unhealed part that your fear wants to reveal: Fear could act like a mirror for you for self-reflection towards your past trauma or unhealed parts, fear could reveal the pain that your heart is carrying yet, fear could give you a clarity that which part of yours is asking to feel safe, Example:If you are afraid of public speaking, your fear may wants to reveal that it’s a fear of being seen, accepted or judged and your inner child is demanding healing in this part of you.

Summary

The message that I want to convey through this article is :

• Fear is just an imagination, not the reality, When it becomes heavy on your mind, your try to control everything which is beyond the control which ends us in disappearence of joy, excitment and growth from your life.
• Imagination of fear arises in your mind due to kind of surroundings where you always hear only about negative side of a particular thing or due to lack of self confidence, limited beliefs, Criticism, Overprotection or due to deeply hurted from the painful memories, etc.
• Fear cannot be completely eliminated since it is an emotion but We can use it for our advantage to attract growth that fulfill our life with joy and excitment.
• It just require to give positive input to your subconcious mind to make your brain aware with positive aspects of life, then your subconcious mind would help you itself to generate positive output.